[LMB] Elli, was Winterfair Gifts

[Tzivia Adler]

to the general discussion of    'why Elli should have given it all up for 
luuuuuv'

I can think of two literary examples of women who did.
1 - the mother in the 'young wizard' series by Diane Duane.  her daughter 
found one of her 'swan lake' posters, with mom in a tutu.  mom said, don't 
underestimate those pretty, graceful swans, they can break a man's arm in 
three places with those wings.  while daughter is standing with mouth 
hanging open, mom sails serenely on, with laundry basket on hip.  this woman 
did not give it up for love, she gave up something she liked for something 
she liked better.

2 - not quite the same - in 'tea with the black dragon' the daughter spent 
nights with mom in playing violin in nightclubs, and -the daughter- grew up 
thinking that mom should have aborted the daughter and not given up her 
philharmonic career.  mom, on the other hand, was cheerful about it, thinks 
she would have been bored stiff with all the high-brow, extremely proper 
folk at that level of music.

3 - Elli - if she had 'given it up for love' she would have let everyone 
know it every waking moment, and life had -better- be as good as what she 
gave up or everyone will suffer.  life is never that good.  I am grateful 
she did not give up her ship, bec this marriage would turn a good soldier 
into a shrewish wife.  she would -not- do well on civilian street, she 
doesn't have the social graces for it.  (not having all the social graces 
myself, I can sympathize.  *waves at fellow geeks*)

ziviya, who still thinks Elli is too one-dimensional to be intersting