[LMB] Ekaterin's shopping expedition

[Anita]

On Dec 13, 2007 1:22 AM, Louann Miller <louann at millerdome.com> wrote:

>
> I would have said she was _too_ outer-directed, until she started
> learning better.

Agreed.


> All that introspection was in the service of changing
> herself to be what Tien wanted or what Nikki needed or what would be
> most acceptable in the role of a Proper Vor Widow. It took time and
> conscious effort for her to start saying "Hey, I want something for ME,
> too."
> <http://lists.herald.co.uk/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/lois-bujold>
>
Of course. Ekaterin is an abuse survivour and having to take conscious
effort to overcome that behaviour pattern is common with abuse survivours.

Anita