[LMB] OT: stalkers

[Tzivia Adler]

From: "Azalais Aranxta" <tiamat at tsoft.com>
>
> But frankly, anything that costs more than $5 from a stranger is
> creepy because WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE ONE OF THEM, there are many
> men in the world who expect a return on their investment when
> they spend money on a woman, and unless we've talked to you, we
> don't know that you are not one of them.
>
and if, upon getting romantic gifts from a stranger, StandardWoman [tm] lets 
said stranger into her house and he hurts her, she doesn't often get 
sympathy for being attacked by a stranger.  she gets called a shameless 
hussy for letting a maaaaan into her house!  stupid girl, she deserves what 
she gets!  especially if she was dressed for a date.  clearly she was asking 
for it.

and so, in the interest of 'not asking for it', from the 1 of 100 dangerous 
men, all 99 good men must be treated with suspicous.   after all, i live in 
a big city.  there are at least 100,000 men around.  that leaves 90,000 safe 
men adn 10,000 r at pists, yes?  that's enough to browbeat female types to 
living in fear and caution -all- -the- -darn- -time-.   no time off for good 
behaviour :(  any mistake is her own fault, so secret admirers had better be 
treated like hazardous material.

ziviya, happily married to a genuine nice guy, they don't always finish last 
:)

>
> I want it to come from someone who has actually spent some
> time talking to me and paying attention to me.  I would like to
> get a dozen roses on my birthday from someone I've been dating
> for six months or even from a good platonic friend, but not from
> an anonymous source whose intentions are unknown to me.
>
> I mean, I really fail to comprehend what you could possibly write
> in a love letter to someone you've never spoken ten words to.
> For there to be serious attraction beyond the physicalities,
> there has to be some knowledge of the other person.  It's all got
> to be about the person's physical attributes, and there is
> nothing so uncomfortable as the notion that someone who has spent
> 70 dollars on roses and has taken the time to find out where I
> live, but not to say word one to me, is thinking too hard about
> my body.
>
> If you actually like someone as a person, you won't do this.
>
> ~malfoy :)
>
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