[LMB] Attract vs. chased
beatrice_otter at haugensgalleri.com
Sun Sep 6 04:31:40 BST 2015
>>> On Sep 4, 2015, at 1:57 AM, Beatrice Otter <beatrice_otter at haugensgalleri.com> wrote:
>>> Beatrice Otter:
>>> I MOST EMPHATICALLY do not want to be chased by anyone for any reason having anything to do with sex or romanc
>> From: howard at brazee.net
>> The word “chase” has lots of different levels of meaning here. There is a level of attracting someone of the desired gender which most people are happy with. The trouble is, lots of different conditions change that level.
>> Certainly Miles “chased” Ekaterin at various levels that are different from Betriz “chasing” Cazaril.
> On 9/4/2015 10:04 AM, Pat Mathews wrote:
> Yes, and just look how that turned out for Miles. "Stop her! She's getting away!"
You will note that it was only once he /stopped/ chasing her that
I would not describe any of Betriz or Caz's behavior as anything even
/close/ to either of them chasing the other. Chasing implies that one
of them wishes a relationship and is willing to pursue it even against
the other's wishes. (This is, in fact, the problem with it--if someone
says they love you, but don't care what you think or want as long as
they get you, there's something wrong and it's probably not going to be
a great relationship until/unless they can learn to back off, as Miles
did.) Both Betriz and Caz /want/ a relationship--they care about each
other very much on multiple levels--but circumstances are in the way.
And although one of them sees circumstances as more of a preventative
than the other, the other accepts his decision even though she doesn't
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