[LMB] Monogamy

Marc Wilson marc.wilson at gmx.co.uk
Thu Jun 28 11:12:32 BST 2018

On Mon, 25 Jun 2018 09:44:00 -0500, Beatrice_Otter
<beatrice_otter at haugensgalleri.com> wrote:

>Let's look at what we get of Betan attitudes.  Obviously, poly is normal, there, from lots of details mentioned in the thread. And when Cordelia comes to Barrayar, she gets confused by a lot of sex things, but not by monogamy. She thinks it's stingy that you're only ALLOWED one partner (i.e. the social pressure forcing it) but doesn't seem to have any problems with it as a general concept or as applied to her relationship with Aral.  ("Now he's monogamous.")  She's neither offended/sad/regretful that she can't have poly relationships publicly (so she's not a heavily poly person being forced into monogamy because Barrayar) nor relieved that she is now free from poly pressure (so she's not a monogamous person who was forced into polygamy because Beta).  Her general attitude seems to be that relationships should not be straight jacketed by culture into any particular form, but left to the inclinations of the people involved.

It would seem that poly is, if perhaps not default, certainly on the
spectrum of unsurprising options on Beta.
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