[LMB] OT: Conversation Therapy

Louann Miller domelouann at gmail.com
Thu Nov 12 15:38:23 GMT 2020

'Sexual preference' has come to be associated with the idea that gay
people,  etc have chosen who they are attracted to. With heavy connotations
of "an immoral, sinful choice" often following almost immediately.
Choosing what impulses you act on, as opposed to what impulses you feel, is
necessary for any adult. But there's a difference between "I see that
approaching this potential partner would be wrong, for specific reasons"
and "I must play a role every waking moment, never show any hint of my
desires and feelings. I must accept that I can never, ever have an honest
relationship. As much as possible, I must lie even to myself." The latter
has been expected of gays etc through most of our culture's history, and
many places still is. That way lies madness, often literally.

On Thu, Nov 12, 2020, 8:13 AM WILLIAM A WENRICH <wawenri at msn.com> wrote:

> There was a brouhaha recently when a public figure used the term “sexual
> preference” instead of “sexual orientation.” In the course of this
> conflict, people seemed to be saying that any effort to help people control
> their sexual actions (as opposed to desires) was conversion therapy. Every
> thing I’ve heard about actual conversion therapy makes me think that:
> It doesn’t work and
> It is a cruel form of torture.
> Maybe Betan therapy could control sexual feelings but we can’t.
> Now I’m two years out of warranty and still have sexual feelings that I
> control. I very much want anyone with sexual feelings toward my
> granddaughters or Gayle to control them. There is a difference between
> feelings and actions.
> Do I have the wrong idea or were the pundits just not expressing
> themselves correctly? I’ll likely get in trouble from this, but I’m asking.
> Christian, husband, father, granddaddy, son, American. Here I stand. I can
> do no other. God help me.
> William A Wenrich
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