[LMB] OT: why I couldn’t join the party, was: Tech marches on

Raymond Collins rcrcoll6 at gmail.com
Mon Dec 13 09:33:54 GMT 2021


Dementia is a terrible thing. I had friends who've I've lost to dementia. I
just hope things won't get worse. All that is great about a person seems to
diminish with dementia,  and it's only the reminiscence of who that person
was is what we should hold on to the most. I hope,  under the
circumstances, that your Mother-in-law finds peace.

On Mon, Dec 13, 2021, 12:18 AM A. Marina Fournier via Lois-Bujold <
lois-bujold at lists.herald.co.uk> wrote:

> On Dec 12, 2021, at 7:05 PM, Raymond Collins <rcrcoll6 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > I'm sorry about your Mother-in-law. I hope things get better for you and
> > her next year.
>
> Thanks for your kind words. I wish we’d been in Santa Cruz at the same
> time and managed to meet.
>
> Edna will be 91 in February. I hope that she is able to get strong enough
> again to handle the toilet on her own. Aside from that, well . . .   .
>
> “Getting better”.  Loaded phrase.
>
> The dementia won’t get better: it’s a terminal illness. She got polio at
> 14, and while being strong & active before it meant a better recovery,
> post-polio syndrome hasn’t been studied enough for there to be specialists
> found in even all major medical centers. She’s also got rheumatoid
> arthritis, deafness, a cataract she chose not to deal with, bone & gum loss
> . . . her dying in February wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing. Death with
> Dignity can’t be invoked because of her cognitive loss, even if anyone was
> able to say “yes, less than six months to live, choose your date & method”.
>
> It’s life, Jim, but not as we wish it.
>
> A. Marina Fournier
> saffronrose at me.com
> Je persisterai quand même, car j’ais survécu d’être née
> Valley of Heart’s Delight. CA
> Sent from iFionnghuala
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