[LMB] OT: Bothari as a father

[Elizabeth Holden]

Beatrice said:

> I think the saving grace of Bothari was that he wasn't doing the raising
himself, especially when > Elena was a kid.

I'd say that saved Elena more than him, but I take your point. (Grin.)

> He hired a woman to take care of her, and she lived with her
foster-mother, not him.

Yes, but he still had control over her life.

> I think it would have been a very different story if he'd been doing the
actual parenting, as > opposed to just coming by to visit on his days off.

How so?

namaste,
Elizabeth

Elizabeth Holden <azurite at azurite.ca>