[LMB] Re: Trophy wives (was Ekaterin)

William Jaffe billj at patriot.net
Sat, 29 Nov 2003 07:10:19 -0500

IDOYPE: It depends on your personal experience.
Mine is in Washington, DC and California, some NY, Boston, and Philadelphia.
I would suspect that Midwest values are very different than people on the
East and West Coast. Hence the different experience...

That's the problem with anecdotal evidence. I'd venture to say that Akron
really isn't in the same culture as Washington, DC, or LA or SF. Granted
we're all Americans, and more so, we're all mostly in the same general set
of rules and regulations, but the overall culture, attention to religion
would be a good example, are simply different.

I could say I'd heard "urban legends about people who didn't trade wives out
for younger models", but the phenomenon of doing so is so accepted that it's
actually immortalized in a long-running Doonesbury strip about the
post-Enron experience. There was a whole sequence about Jim, the energy
trader, who fled the country with the trophy wife, etc.

But, as I said earlier, IDOYPE, and also, where you live.

Bill Jaffe
billj at patriot.net

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Subject: [LMB] Re: Trophy wives (was Ekaterin)

Bill writes:
It's a fairly common phenomenon in executive corporate circles, not anything
like a majority, but a solid 10-15% rate of occurrence. Incidentally, many
of the "original executive wives" were also very good looking, spent loads
of time and energy on looking good and being hostesses, and not much time on
"volunteer" work - it all depends on the circles one travels in, but
executives at very large enterprises, especially before the recent corporate
governance movement, really operated in a very rarified and rules-different
world than we experience.
M replies:

Funny--these second, younger, prettier wives didn't seem to exist in Akron, 
which at the time I lived there (1968-1986) had the headquarters of all the 
major American rubber companies except US Rubber.  I would call Goodyear, 
Firestone, BF Goodrich, and General large companies, and their presidents,
heads of various departments, General Counsels, Assistant  Counsels, etc.,
not have "trophy wives."  Very, very few of them had been divorced.  Most of

them had been married for many years to the same women, who were not only
hostesses, but who also worked with various charities around the community.
as for rules, that so-called rarified world had different rules, all right--

stricter rules than most social groups.  

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