[LMB] AKICOTL: OT: A Matter of Manners

Howard Brazee howard at brazee.net
Sun Apr 5 22:14:13 BST 2020



> On Apr 5, 2020, at 3:00 PM, Sylvia McIvers <sylviamcivers at gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> oh no no no. bad idea. very bad.  only bad girls do that.  only sluts are
> so brazen.
> and once she is so "forward" or "fast" or whatever term is popular, word
> will get around. you know it will. high school is a terrible place for
> gossip.
> and when someone, ahem, takes advantage of that "forward/fast/brazen" girl,
> everyone will say she deserved it. what else could she expect, the way she
> behaved. she probably wanted it anyhow. how dare she get that nice young
> man in trouble.
> etc.
> 'just say what you want' comes with consequences.

Sad.

However, the best way to show get a relationship started is to share activities.   That works well for long-term relationships, but not so good if you want to distance yourself.

And you have excuses for being friendly, even being friendly without gossips around.


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