[LMB] AKICOTL: OT: A Matter of Manners

Marc Wilson marc.wilson at gmx.co.uk
Mon Apr 6 22:38:32 BST 2020


On Sun, 5 Apr 2020 17:00:15 -0400, Sylvia McIvers
<sylviamcivers at gmail.com> wrote:

>On Sat, Apr 4, 2020 at 12:49 PM Eric Oppen <ravenclaweric at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> This touches on an old pet peeve of mine.  I'm pretty straightforward
>> myself (being a guy, I'd say it goes with the territory) and disliked
>> guessing games even when I was a kid.  My take is: "if you want something
>> from me, for the gods' sake, ASK ME!"
>> ....  Looking back on those years, I can see that one girl, in
>> particular, was sending what she probably believed to be very clear signals
>> that she was interested.  I do regret not picking up on them, but she'd
>> have been much better just cornering me somewhere and telling me that she
>> was in plain English.
>>
>>
>oh no no no. bad idea. very bad.  only bad girls do that.  only sluts are
>so brazen.
>and once she is so "forward" or "fast" or whatever term is popular, word
>will get around. you know it will. high school is a terrible place for
>gossip.
>and when someone, ahem, takes advantage of that "forward/fast/brazen" girl,
>everyone will say she deserved it. what else could she expect, the way she
>behaved. she probably wanted it anyhow. how dare she get that nice young
>man in trouble.
>etc.
>'just say what you want' comes with consequences.

That's part of the problem, though.
--
No plan can prevent a stupid person from doing the wrong thing in the wrong place at the wrong time-
 but a good plan should keep a concentration from forming.  - Charles E. Wilson



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