[LMB] AKICOTL: OT: A Matter of Manners

Fred Smith fredex at fcshome.stoneham.ma.us
Tue Apr 7 01:29:51 BST 2020

On Mon, Apr 06, 2020 at 10:38:32PM +0100, Marc Wilson wrote:
> On Sun, 5 Apr 2020 17:00:15 -0400, Sylvia McIvers
> <sylviamcivers at gmail.com> wrote:
> >On Sat, Apr 4, 2020 at 12:49 PM Eric Oppen <ravenclaweric at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> >> This touches on an old pet peeve of mine.  I'm pretty straightforward
> >> myself (being a guy, I'd say it goes with the territory) and disliked
> >> guessing games even when I was a kid.  My take is: "if you want something
> >> from me, for the gods' sake, ASK ME!"
> >> ....  Looking back on those years, I can see that one girl, in
> >> particular, was sending what she probably believed to be very clear signals
> >> that she was interested.  I do regret not picking up on them, but she'd
> >> have been much better just cornering me somewhere and telling me that she
> >> was in plain English.
> >>
> >>
> >oh no no no. bad idea. very bad.  only bad girls do that.  only sluts are
> >so brazen.
> >and once she is so "forward" or "fast" or whatever term is popular, word
> >will get around. you know it will. high school is a terrible place for
> >gossip.
> >and when someone, ahem, takes advantage of that "forward/fast/brazen" girl,
> >everyone will say she deserved it. what else could she expect, the way she
> >behaved. she probably wanted it anyhow. how dare she get that nice young
> >man in trouble.
> >etc.
> >'just say what you want' comes with consequences.
> That's part of the problem, though.

But this is quantitatively (if not qualitatively) quite different from
asking for a cup of coffee by implication.

Whole 'nother thing!

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